Contrary to what some people might believe, there is nothing wrong with having pleasures and enjoyments. What is wrong is the confused way we grasp onto these pleasures, turning them from a source of happiness into a source of pain and dissatisfaction.

-Lama Thubten Yeshe, "Introduction to Tantra


Your Ideal Sexual Partner Your Perfect Partner's Sexual Profile Likelihood of Finding Them Research Behind the Test For More Reading Your Ideal Sexual Partner your ideal sexual partner is: A Type 5 match wants to experiment with different approaches and foreplay to help you both reach a physical high. The sensations of sex are what this person most enjoys and focuses on — much more so than the emotional bond you can forge during your most intimate moments. This partner enjoys the adventure of sex and doesn't mind if it gets intense at times. This is someone who can take the act of sex to places you never thought it could go — and will do so frequently. Or at least they will think about it frequently. They have a sex drive as fierce as their curiosity about how to raise their level of pleasure. But this person also shares a more personal side to them. They tend to keep their eagerness to find pleasure in sex behind closed doors and they don't flaunt their sexuality in public as much as you might think. A Type 5 is simply dedicated to sex's more wild and pleasurable sides. They like to push the boundaries and have an amazing talent for knowing exactly what works for them and what doesn't. Like you, sex is simply fun and expressive for this person. It doesn't carry a lot of emotional weight. While a deeper connection could or could not happen for either of you, it's simply not a focus when you're in the mood. Statistical studies indicate there are 10 distinct sexual personality types. No one type is any better or any worse than another. The difference between them comes from the unique combination of behaviors, preferences, and attitudes individuals hold about sex. You, too, are one of these types, but this test is designed to show you the specific characteristics of your ideal sexual partner. You are most likely to be compatible with someone who shares your views on these things — but it's actually a bit more complex than that. As you answered the questions to Tickle's Ideal Sexual Partner Test, we analyzed your responses and were able to break down what someone who is sexually compatible with you is like on a number of levels. From there, we paired you with the sexual personality type that best reflected your unique wants and needs.

Your Ideal Sexual Partner Your Perfect Partner's Sexual Profile

Likelihood of Finding Them Research Behind the Test For More Reading How to Find Your Ideal Sexual Partner Now that you have the personality of your ideal sexual partner, you probably want to know how to find them — before you get intimate. To help you understand what you should look for, we've taken a look at how your perfect partner scored on 5 classic sexual personality dimensions: sexual experience, value of emotional connection, seductive behavior, libido, and focus on orgasm.
This is what your ideal partner's sexual personality profile looks like.

 Sexual Experience Focus On Orgasm Libido Seductive Behavior Emotional Connection 1 50 100 Taking a closer look at, and getting to know each of these dimensions, will give you both a clearer picture of who your ideal sexual partner is and how to identify realistic partners before you go too far down the wrong path. Here are descriptions that will help you understand the dimensions in depth.
Sexual Experience Sexual Experience
1 50 100 The Sexual Experience dimension measures how comfortable your ideal sex partner is with trying out new things in bed, and how confident they are with sex in general. The more savvy they are, the more they're willing and eager to experiment. You're looking for someone who has a high rating on this dimension. How to spot it when you see it Your ideal sexual partner tends to be the kind of person who tries to get you to try new things, from the latest restaurant, to taking a course, to attempting to cook Thanksgiving dinner all from scratch. People who are sexually experienced go where their curiosity leads them — and they'd love nothing more than to take you along with them. You're likely to meet someone sexually experienced at an unusual gathering. Maybe they're the one trying to get everyone to try dinner at the Cambodian restaurant that just opened. When you're at a bar, keep your eyes on the dance floor. It's the sexually experienced person who often gets the dancing started, or who pulls you on to the floor. It's not that they're trying to embarrass you, it's simply that they want you to have as much fun as they are. And with life, as with sex, they're ready to dive in and enjoy.

A test to determine their level of sexual experience
Think up an idea or belief that is considered "out there" by many people. It could be anything from a hot-button political issue to an unusual suggestion for what to do one evening. Bring up the issue to them, and see how they react. If they show genuine interest in considering this subject from a different point of view, you're off to a good start. This implies that they're fairly receptive to hearing new things and are curious. It also indicates that they will not make you feel ashamed for broaching new subjects with them. The chances are, if the person is open-minded in general, they will also likely be open-minded in the bedroom. And that means they won't be closed off to trying the new and playful things you might like to do.

Focus On Orgasm Focus On Orgasm
1 50 100 The Focus On Orgasm dimension measures how important orgasms are for your sex partner. Some people focus exclusively on how to reach orgasm, while others enjoy sex and everything that leads up to orgasm just as much. Of course, you want to find someone who feels like you do about sex — that orgasms are critically important but not the only focus. How to spot it when you see it Needless to say, orgasm-focused people are goal-oriented. They may even be a little competitive. Keep an eye on someone who likes to one up other people's stories with their own, or who is a little cutthroat when it comes to games. These are sure signs that they are focused on an end result and get a little high when they reach it. Goal-oriented people are often also highly visual. They're able to focus on how things look and tend to strive for beauty as the ultimate ideal. Pay attention to someone who is always commenting on your appearance or the appearance of everyone around them — chances are they're into peak experiences. A test to determine their level of focus on orgasm Throughout our research, Tickle has found that people who agreed with the statement "When I close my eyes, I am able to think more clearly" tended to be the same ones who found orgasms extremely important. So, why not try this out on your potential partner? Simply find a subtle way to ask them, "Do you find that when you close your eyes you are able to think more clearly?" If they answer "yes!" clearly and firmly it's a safe bet that orgasms are extremely important to their sexual enjoyment. If they give you a so-so answer, assume that they love a good orgasm, but it's not the be-all, end-all of their sex lives. If they just can't imagine that closing their eyes would help them think better — chances are they're into sex for the enjoyment of it all, not just to reach orgasm.

Libido Libido 1 50 100 Finding someone whose libido — or sex drive —
matches your own is incredibly important. Otherwise your timing is all off: they'll be ready to go when you're not and vice versa. Since you're someone who is often in the mood, you need a partner who's also often in the mood. How to spot it when you see it Although someone's sex drive is one of the harder things to figure out until you really know them, there are some clues to look for. People with a high libido tend to live life to the fullest. They love to experience things. At a museum or concert, this is the person who loses themselves in a painting or song. While out at dinner, the person with a high libido will be the one who not only knows what every item on the menu is and how it's prepared, but can comment on each of the wines as well. They could be the world traveler who will know exactly where you should shop while in Katmandu. They aren't necessarily thrill seekers, they're simply masters of appreciating things. They want more out life's sensual pleasures than others. What this person dislikes most of all is limits. They find rules restrictive. Relative to other test takers, you want someone who has a moderately high sex drive. So start noticing people who can enjoy life fully — but also know how to call it quits before they go overboard. A test to determine their level of libido Try wining and dining your love interest at a nice restaurant. Make sure the place you take them goes the extra mile with nice music and a great atmosphere. You want your date to be excited by the sensuous scene around them but not consumed by it. If they can talk about how lush and amazing everything is — but still stay focused on the two of you or current events or any normal topics of conversation — then chances are you've found a person who's sex drive is on par with yours.

Seductive Behavior Seductive Behavior 1 50 100

The Seductive Behavior dimension measures how much your ideal sexual partner draws attention to their sexuality. Do they know how to use their charms to attract who the want? According to your results, you are looking for someone who can turn it on when they feel the time is right. How to spot it when you see it In general, a seductive person is comfortable with their sexuality and isn't afraid to show it. However, seductive behavior can come across in hundreds of different ways. It could be the way a person talks or what they talk about with potential partners. Do they make suggestive comments or flirty jabs? Maybe it's the clothes they wear — do they flaunt lean arms or a toned stomach? Most of the time, seductiveness is just a general vibe. The most important thing to remember here is that a person's exterior says very little about what they're like behind closed doors. In order to get an idea whether someone's outward behavior carries over to the bedroom, you'll probably need to look to their other sexual dimensions as well. A test to determine their level of seductive behavior You have no complaints about being seduced — except when the seducer can't find their "off" button. The best way to figure out if they know the right and wrong times for seduction is to take them to some non-sexual settings. Go to the grocery store with them, watch a play, or get together with a group of friends for brunch. If they don't know how to moderate their seductive moves, then you might have a potentially annoying situation on your hands.

Emotional Connection Emotional Connection 1 50 100

The Emotional Connection dimension sheds light on how much your ideal sex partner cares about the deeper bond between the two of you. It also measures how much you can expect them to show affection towards you. You are looking for a sexual partner who considers the emotional connection to be of medium importance in a sexual relationship. How to spot it when you see it If you noticed someone hanging out with their friends and saw them put their hand on a friend's shoulder or hug someone goodbye, chances are this person is comfortable expressing affection. Also pay special attention to people who remember your name or small details about you that even you don't remember telling them. These are people who value the connection they've made with you. Anyone who's asking you personal questions — what you do for a living, where you live, where you grew up — and takes the time to really listen to your responses is probably someone comfortable with the more tender and intimate aspects of sex. A test to determine their level of emotional connection A good way to test whether someone's level of emotional connection is high or low enough for you is to find out if they like to kiss. There are ways of doing this without actually touching lips. Try dropping a line along the lines of "I will always remember my first kiss because it really set up how special they can feel," or "kissing is one of the best parts about sex." See if they agree, disagree or are indifferent with that. Your ideal sexual partner would likely be in medium agreement with this.

Your Ideal Sexual Partner Your Perfect Partner's Sexual Profile

Likelihood of Finding Them Research Behind the Test For More Reading Your Chances of Finding This Person So, now you know what to look for, but the question remains: what is the likelihood of even finding someone like this? Since 7.1% of all women are a Type 5, it depends on whether that's a large enough pool for you to choose from. If you'd like to expand your options, read about the two other types who may not be your ideal partner, but who definitely share a lot in common with you sexually. Your next best fit is with a Type 2. Type 2 partners are sexually curious and playful when it comes to sex. They are also bold and confident in asserting their sexuality. Your Type 2 match has an unusually potent sexual energy. Their sex appeal shines through naturally in just about anything they do — whether dressed to the nines or kicking around the neighborhood in sweatpants. Regardless of where they are, they turn heads with what they wear, how they move, and where they position themselves relative to others. There's just something about them that will draw you in. And thanks to a healthy dose of confidence, they won't be afraid to use it to both of your advantages. A Type 2 has lots of experience, a never-ending reserve of creativity, and the same goal as you: ultimate pleasure. Having this in common opens the door for the two of you to play with all kinds of sexual possibilities until you hit upon combinations that are blissfully and uniquely yours. Like you, the emotional connection — and the affection often expressed during sex — are less important than the physical sensations for Type 2 people. That's not to say your match doesn't pay attention to your personal closeness and genuine caring, but it does tend to take a backseat to the physical feelings of pleasure. Ultimately, a Type 2 is best characterized by their readiness to dive into the unknown. They're sensual, lively, and, most importantly, will never rush through the experience of sex,— not when there are so many ways they can be creative with it. Approximately 7.7% of all women are this type. Your third best fit is with a Type 3. For a Type 3, sex isn't simply about the physical highs — the rush of adrenaline, or getting caught in the moment. Nor is it exclusively about the depths that an emotional connection and feeling intimate can bring. To this person, sex is a perfect and equal combination of these two elements. In this way, the Type 3 is a sexual connoisseur, able to appreciate all the nuances of sexual experiences. A Type 3 partner appreciates both the physical and emotional aspects of sex and tends to both with a certain sense of confidence. This rare, balanced quality opens a vast world of sexual possibilities, which they are more than happy to share with you. They appear to be naturals when it comes to sex, with a gentle self-assurance that might even indicate they've always known exactly what to do. They are able to give you pleasure emotionally and physically — and aren't afraid to do it either. Like you, your Type 3 match is a sexual explorer. And also like you, they definitely focus in on the ultimate sensations when they engage in sexual activity. Orgasm is particularly important to these types and to reach it, they are willing to try different combinations of foreplay to get both of you there. Approximately 13.5% of all women are this type.

Your Ideal Sexual Partner Your Perfect Partner's Sexual Profile

Likelihood of Finding Them Research Behind the Test For More Reading Research Behind the Test This test was derived primarily from the results of sexual relationship research that Tickle gathered through questions that hundreds of thousands of people have answered. By searching for patterns in the data, Tickle identified five key dimensions that comprise a person's sexual personality, or what they are like as a sexual partner: sexual experience, value of emotional connection, seductive behavior, libido, and focus on orgasm. From that we identified clusters of people who exhibited very similar behaviors along those five dimensions. This led to the derivation of the total 10 sexual personality types. The sexual personality test questions were based on extensive research and literature on sexuality, focusing on the characteristics of a sexual partner that really make a difference to the value and pleasure involved in sexual experiences. We found that a set of dimensions and questions best represented these, and this formed the foundation of the Ideal Sexual Partner test. For More Reading Etcoff, Nancy (1999). Survival of the Prettiest. Anchor Books, New York, New York. Rodgers, Joann Ellison (2001). Sex: A Natural History. Henry Holt and Company, LLC, New York New York.